(originally published on kioshanalacount.com)
One of the best bits of advice that I have ever received came from a co-worker. It was during a mock orientation session during which he was practicing his spill to the “students” (the rest of the team) as part of a training session. He spoke about the importance of not “trying” to do things, and instead encouraged us to maintain a constant state of “be”. Now, I need to tell you all that my co-worker is about as goofy as they come, and so most of us just kind of looked at each other confused, and laughed thinking this was just another of his jokes – we didn’t understand the brilliance of what he’d just said.
To drive home his point, my co-worker began telling us the story of how he got his first job. He stated that he wanted to work at a local general store, but that the store wasn’t hiring. So, my co-worker being the kind of person that he is, decided that he worked there. He went into the store and started stocking, greeting customers, cleaning, etc. He says that he did this for a few days, getting plenty of curious looks from the employees, before he was approached by the store’s manager. When she approached him and asked what he was doing, my co-worker simply replied, “I saw you guys needed help, and so I decided to start working.” He was hired that day.
Going further, my co-worker decided within about a week of working there that he wanted to be a manager for the store – so, he started acting like a manager. He would dress himself the way that the managers did, observe and correct store functions the way that managers did, and handle customer complaints in the same fashion. His co-workers, of course, didn’t like this, and so they made it a point to tell the actual manager about everything that he was doing, with the intention of getting him in trouble. Instead, what they did was demonstrate the initiative that he had been taking at work. He was promoted to management within months.
The gist of this whole thing, and what my co-worker was trying to get us to understand that day in that orientation room, is that in order to achieve our goals, we must always exist in a state of “be”. In other words, we must conduct our lives as if we have already achieved whatever it is that we’ve set out to do. “Trying” he says, leaves too much room for failure. If you decide within yourself that you are already where it is that you’re going, then there is no opportunity for you not to reach your goal – you’ve already told the universe that its yours!
When you think about it, this is actually a principle that many of us already apply to our everyday lives. Have you ever been told to “dress for the position you want, not the position you’ve got”? That’s just another way of saying, if you want to be the manager, then behave as if you’re already there.
I am firm believer in the concept that the universe rewards action. The whole world is wide open for us, and there are no limits to what we can achieve – truly, the only thing that stops us is ourselves. The one thing that limits people from reaching their goals more than anything else is doubt. Doubt invades our minds and tells us that we can’t do something, and we get stuck “trying”. Things come up, excuses are made, and suddenly we’re failing because we left room for the doubt to plant the seeds that say we can’t. Existing in the state of “be” leaves no room for that – it tells our mind and the universe that we have already achieved what it is that we set out to do, and thus it makes manifest the benefits of having achieved those goals.
I can attest to the effectiveness of this concept in my own life. I’ve wanted to be a writer my entire life, but I’ve never been able to do it. I wanted to publish books and be known as an author… but somehow life just started getting in the way. A couple of years ago, all of that changed, however. One day, I just decided for myself that I am a writer. I conducted myself as such. I told people I was an author that would have a book published by the end of the year, even though at the time all I really had was a few mismatched chapters on my laptop and a lot of frustration. Still, I kept working at it, kept telling myself that I was an author, that I can do this.
On September 30, 2013, my dream of being an author was made manifest in the form of the book “Network to Increase Your Net Worth”. I went to sleep on September 29th someone who wanted to be a writer – I woke up on September 30th a bona fide, internationally published author. Even better, by the time I got to work on the launch day my book was already an Amazon Top 100 best-seller, and by the time I went home that evening, it had reached number 2 on that list.
I reached that dream because I stopped making room for doubt and failure. I left no space for the possibility that I couldn’t do it. I just decided that I was an author, and that was that. That doesn’t mean that it wasn’t hard (it was) or that I didn’t encounter road-blocks along the way (I did). It just means that I decided I wanted something more than I was afraid of it – I went for it, and because I did, I’ve made one of my lifelong dreams come true.
Take a few minutes to do a mental catalog of your mind. Think about the last few things that you wanted to do – why didn’t they work out? Was it because of circumstances around you, or was it because you started to doubt yourself? What could you have done differently? What will you do differently from now on?
Whatever it is, do it with purpose, do it with intention, and do it now. Go be the person you want to be!
Love and Light – Kioshana