Seven Ways to Love Yourself More this Week

Happy Tuesday, Lovelies!

This is a post that I wrote quite a while ago, but felt like we could all use as we navigate through this week.  Enjoy!

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A good friend of mine asked a group of women recently, “What do you really think when you look at yourself in the mirror?”  As I watched woman after woman answer the question, I began to notice a pattern.  More and more, I saw that the women in the thread stated that they often recognized the beauty in their reflection, but quickly digressed into pointing out whatever flaws they saw as well.  I wondered, as I listened to sister after sister repeat this same pattern, what would happen if we instead focused on ways to love ourselves more throughout the week.  Loving and appreciating yourself is a huge factor in creating a sustainable self-care routine.  However, many of us have a hard time figuring out where to start.  Here are seven things that you can do to encourage self-love this week!

  1. – Refuse to weigh yourself

We all know that weight is just a number.  In and of itself, our weight has no power.  However, sometimes it is difficult to remember that, especially if we step on the scales and see a number that is slightly larger than we would like for it to be.  Instead of focusing on that little inconsequential number this week, make a promise to yourself that you will stay away from the scale and instead focus on all of the wonderful things that you love about yourself.

  1. Pay yourself an awesome compliment

Too often we go through the day doing the work of superheroes, and never give ourselves credit because we see it as just something that we do.  Take some time this week to recognize how amazing you are as a person. Whether it’s congratulating yourself on doing well on a class or work assignment, or simply acknowledging the effort you put forth into everyday life – give yourself the congratulations you deserve.  You are worth it, sis.

  1. Be grateful

When you wake up each morning this week, before you do anything else to start your day, take five minutes and acknowledge aloud some of the things in your life that you are happy to have.  This can be any number of things, including your family, your friends, your job, your killer body, a great relationship… the possibilities are only limited to what is inside your mind.  When you focus on the things that you love about your life, it becomes increasingly easy to love yourself and your place in it.  So go ahead, tell me – what are you grateful for today?

  1. – Get moving!

Nothing lifts a mood better than the positive endorphins generated from a good workout!  No, you don’t have to spend the week impersonating a gym rat (unless that’s your thing!), but spending a few extra minutes to go for a brisk walk around your neighborhood or taking a quick break to dance to your favorite song on the radio can do wonders for your mood.  Those awesome feelings will continue to flow through you long after you’ve stopped moving and will help light up the rest of your day.

  1. – Re-evaluate your priorities

As women, we tend to put ourselves last on our list of priorities.  Often we become wrapped up in things we don’t really want any part in because we feel guilty for saying “no”.  Take a few moments this week and evaluate where you are spending the most time, and what activities make you feel the most amount of burnout.  Once you’ve done this, begin cutting away some of the clutter.  I know that sometimes it feels cruel to do this, but the truth is that everything cannot be a priority to you.  Take some time to determine which things really matter and pour your energy into them.  Don’t forget to put yourself on the list!

  1. – Write a love-letter to yourself

This is one of my favorite self-love exercises, because I find it to be personally so effective.  On a day when you’re feeling really good about yourself and your life, write a letter to yourself acknowledging that.  Tell yourself how beautiful and worthwhile you are and remind yourself how much you appreciate your life, at whatever stage of the process you find yourself in this moment.  Then, fold that letter up and keep it somewhere safe so that you can read it again on days when you need a little reminder about how wonderful a person you really are.

  1. – Re-evaluate the messages you consume daily

This one is a personal challenge for me, and one that I find myself working on daily.  There are so many negative messages that we are inundated with on a daily basis, and it is difficult not to internalize them all.  Even if we don’t realize that we are consuming these messages, they show up in other areas of our lives through the words that we speak, the music we listen to, the television shows we watch, etc.  Do a quick inventory of the messages you consume on a daily basis this week and determine whether those messages are providing you with spiritual nourishment or if they are sucking the life out of you.  If it’s the former, excellent – but if it’s the latter, maybe you should think about choosing some different messages that will help speak life into your world.

I hope that these suggestions have helped you.  For more great tips on incorporating self-care into your everyday life, please subscribe on the welcome page.  Thank you for reading – see you soon!

-Kioshana

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